Stay Home Mom - "Grow Your Kids" And Reap The Benefits
Being a stay home mom, you have more quality time for parental bonding. Sometimes all we need are reminders to help us make the most of our privileged situation.
Following are tips on how to balance the advantages and the challenges of stay at home moms (SAHM).
Be Reasonable in Your Expectations
Did you start out with higher expectations than you can fulfill? Don't expect too much of yourself.
Be Proud of What You Do
When people find out that I'm home, they say, "Oh, you're a housewife." "No," I say with a feeling of self-worth and a sense of accomplishment, "I'm a full-time mom." Listen to this:
Labor analysts in 2006 estimated that if a Canadian stay-at-home mom with two school-aged children were paid for all the work she does, her annual salary, including overtime pay, would be $163,852 (Canadian). The figure is based on market wages that year and a “100-hour workweek, consisting of six 15-hour days and one 10-hour day,” says the Vancouver Sun newspaper.
The responsibilities of a stay-at-home mom include those of day-care worker, teacher, driver, housekeeper, cook, nurse, and general maintenance worker. The newspaper offered the following advice: “Appreciate your mother: She’s probably underpaid.”
As a stay home mom whose family might live on a single income, you may not have money for extras. By analyzing your lifestyle you can eliminate non-essentials after determining what is necessary for your family and what is not.
Whether it be physical help or moral support, have a support network of family and friends that are there for you. As much as I love being home with my kids as a stay at home mamma, I still feel the need for "adult conversation".
Schedule your own activities - things you enjoy doing. Is there a hobby you enjoy? A place you like to go?
Our little people are affected by weary-mommy-syndrome. Your kids need you to be happy and content - they feed off that.
The satisfaction that stay at home moms (SAHM) can experience everyday regarding their choice is overwhelming. Being there for my kids - not just, "I'm here for you" on the phone, but actually being with them physically and helping them every step of the way, increases parental bonding and brings me a lot of joy and satisfaction.
Perhaps, like me, you believe that the privileges that come with being a stay home mom, far outweigh the possible challenges!
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